Inner Sky

We warmly welcome you to this exciting journey of self-discovery and growth.

  • Ready to start meditating but feeling overwhelmed by the sea of options from bird-spotting-meditation to manifest-my-BMW-meditation?
  • Have you been sitting on your meditation cushion for 20 years but are you still a jerk?
  • Have you hit a ceiling after years of intense meditation and can’t seem to break through it?
  • Are you “blissed out” after various tantra festivals and wild screaming sessions, but still have no idea what the spiritual path or meditation is really about?
  • Do you get itchy with airy-fairy spirituality but still want to understand yourself and your mind better?
  • Are you an experienced meditator and want to explore Mahamudra and Dzogchen?
  • Are you a yoga or tantra teacher wanting to put meditation at the heart of your practice?
  • Do you have an overactive mind that won’t stop thinking and worrying?
  • Are you hypersensitive and always at odds with the world?
  • Think you’re already enlightened but puzzled why life is still so difficult and why no one understands you?
  • Do you talk a lot about non-dualism, being one with God, and everything being love, but still feel like strangling yourself – in the form of the other?

Then you’re in the right place.

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Disciplining your mind and recognizing yourself to your deepest essence with the question: who am I?

Without practice, our minds can drift (up to 50% of the day!) into daydreams, distractions, and reactions to irrelevant stimuli. This often manifests as spontaneous, self-referential thoughts, memories, anticipations, and imaginings, mostly without metacognitive awareness (think constant thinking, self-criticism, or incessant worry about the state of the world). It reduces both your productivity and your well-being (Buckner et al., 2008; Gurnard & Raichle, 2001; Killingsworth & Gilbert, 2010; Smallwood & Schooler, 2006).

Meditation improves your concentration and provides deeper self-insight. It’s like mental kung-fu: maintaining inner stillness by not identifying with attractive thoughts and enticing emotions. The simplicity of “not doing” has a transformative impact: in that inner silence, you learn to control your autonomic nervous system and access increasingly subtle nuances in the experience of yourself and reality, and how you can influence that experience.

The exercises are derived from Mahamudra (Great Seal), Dzogchen (Great Perfection), Zen Buddhism, and Tantric Shaivism. We work with a “pointing out” style. Our method involves short, intense meditations based on detailed instructions, with opportunities for personal feedback in between. You’ll have space to share your experiences and ask questions.

How can you apply the insights and presence you practice during your silent meditation to your daily life?

Fran Nino Authentic Presence

Training yourself to maintain your concentration and inner silence in daily life and in connection with others.

Meditation is not about sitting in ecstasy on your cushion. In a second phase, you want to fully embody your new insights and your altered experience of yourself in your daily life. But how do you do that when everything around you distracts you and there are many emotions that make you react?

With relational meditation (also known as authentic presence), you practice staying fully and sensitively present in contact with others. You allow yourself to be affected by what is happening around you and embody and express what is within you. It’s an exercise in “being with what is” without trying to change or avoid anything. It challenges you to take ownership of your experience: what desire for a particular feeling or clinging to a certain self-image makes it difficult to simply be with what is?

  • What meditation is and how to practice it
  • Techniques to achieve inner calm and silence
  • How your mind works
  • How to deal with difficult thoughts and emotions
  • How to see through your conceptual stories and conditioning
  • Ways to apply your new experiences and insights to daily life
  • Coming home to yourself, in connection with the other.

 

DV: “This is undoubtedly one of the most valuable and transformative trainings I’ve ever attended: deeply connecting, refreshingly honest, and challengingly confrontational! Thank you, Stijn, for guiding us in such a unique way towards a life where we can and dare to be more authentically present! I’m already looking forward to more opportunities to practice.”

AS: “Wow, what a transformative experience. The meditation techniques from this training come from a unique lineage and are completely different and much more intense than other ‘meditations’ I know, which often boil down to ‘Do nothing.’ I experienced what it’s like to observe sensations, thoughts, and emotions without being distracted or carried away by them. And how it is to see myself and the world from a more realistic perspective. In my daily life, I am constantly applying these meditation techniques and I notice that I feel sharper, calmer, and freer, with a new appreciation and contentment with life as it is, without the urge to change things. Only now do I realize how much I was actually driven by unconscious impulses. This was just the very first step and I can’t wait to delve deeper into these techniques under Stijn’s guidance.”

JS: “There was so much self-insight and experience to process again. What a wealth! We sang, danced, screamed, ate, hugged, played, created, allowed anger to be, massaged, and mourned. I felt fully human, alive, vibrant, in resistance, in irritation, in joy, and openness. Thank you for your sincere, wise, loving, playful, and clear guidance. I look forward to practicing authentic presence with you and everyone else!”

HW: “Truly beautiful and highly recommended, this training. It has given me a greater sense of freedom and connection simultaneously. Whereas it often felt like one came at the expense of the other, now there is a knowing that being different (and the same) together is truly possible and how wonderful and enriching it is to express our own way of being human together, without needing to change anything. More than a transformation, it feels like coming home, returning to what was already within me but sometimes hidden. It makes me grateful and enthusiastic. I cherish various moments of togetherness, keeping them warm in the pockets of my coat to pull out when I momentarily forget.”

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“I have a total commitment to searching and exposing truth -in all definitions- with a sceptical, no nonsense approach. After wandering for a decade across monasteries, ashrams, and communities of all flavours, House of te beloved grew out of my deep desire for a path of existential development that keeps things real, makes no consensus, and is anti-fragile. This training combines practices that require no belief, just commitment to the practice. Out of a deep love for the lineage that carried me forward, I offer these teachings as a service to our beloved community.”

My teachers and inspirations:

  • Indo-Tibetaans Buddhism (Mahamudra and Dzogchen, under guidance of my root Lama Daniel Brown),
  • Tantric Shaivism (Eric Baret, Christopher Wallis)
  • Mystical Christianity (Fraternité de Tibériade, a franciscan-inspired community)

Currently, I am a monk at House of the Beloved, a pluralistic center for personal development. In a previous life, I earned a PhD in psychology, specializing in (exceptionally) high intelligence. A somewhat “dryer” CV you find by clicking here.

In this training there may also be assistants and co-facilitators.

  • Duration: Four weekends (always Friday 8pm till Sunday 5pm), with interim online check-ins, weekly sharing sessions with a buddy, and the option for one-on-one guidance.
    • October 25-27
    • December 13-15
    • February 7-9
    • March 28-30
  • Location: Heerlijckhyt van Elsmeren, Weg op Halen 2, 3450 Geetbets, Belgium
  • Cost: Total €3100
    • Training: €1600 (€400 per weekend)
    • Accommodation and meals: €1500 (€375 per weekend for a single room)
  • Registration: Transfer the total amount to the account of House of the Beloved: IBAN BE54 7370 7190 1897 (with your name and “Inner Sky October 2024” as the reference) and send an email to inschrijven@houseofthebeloved.eu.
  • Location: Hollendewagenweg 20, 3985 SG Werkhoven, NL – Samaya
  • Cost: Choose an amount between €97 and €167 (includes an organic vegetarian lunch)
  • Registration: Transfer the chosen amount to the account of House of the Beloved: IBAN BE54 7370 7190 1897 (with your name and “Taster Inner Sky 23 June” as the reference) and send an email to inschrijven@houseofthebeloved.eu.